As part of our efforts at sharing stories and creating healing circles, we are launching blog circles here at TAN. Each month we will post a brief message introducing the theme for the month, and inviting you to participate in the circle. All you need to do is put your name and link into the Mr Linky widget at the end of this post, and your blog post can be included in the circle. Posts are welcomed throughout the month (and beyond if you write something later and want to share). We hope you will participate.
A couple of weeks ago I talked here about my 2nd miscarriage. It was a traumatic experience that left me upset enough to miscarry alone at home after that. Even that is better then the humiliation I experienced on that cold, sterile table for my ultrasound to find out my baby was gone. And the cold, sterile response and care by my doctor afterwards. I was devastated. This baby I wanted so much was gone. I had already pictured this little person in my life.
Through this loss I found a miscarriage support message board. And through this miscarriage I found the blessings, magic, tender mercies, grace of the experience. A group of friends who also miscarried in March, April and May of 1998. All of us were due in November of 1998. We formed a tight knit little e-mail group, called ourselves the Topaz Club, and there I met some of my best friends. We are still friends to this day. In the past 15 years we have had other losses, welcomed new babies, seen each other through divorce and other heartaches, and celebrated each others joys. Through our grief and pain of loosing our babies grew 15 years of friendships, with members of the Topaz Club living all over the world.
Blessings, Magic, Tender Mercies, Grace, whatever you call it, there are these moments, times and experience of light in the darkness. Sometimes they are very small. Just a moment where you see a little bit of magic, or a blessing wrapped in the grief. Sometimes it is significant, like close friendships made with people you may never have had the chance to meet otherwise.
For our Blog Circle this month (April) please share your own experiences of grace, tender mercies, magic, blessings, or gifts that your miscarriage has given you. If you have not experienced a miscarriage, please feel free to participate. We all know someone who has miscarried and therefore have been touched by miscarriage in some way.